A Simplified Life. Chapter 6.

This is one of those chapters that I read at the right time. I’ve put down A Simplified Life for the last couple of weeks while we are wedding planning and moving and when I picked it back up this week the next chapter in line for me was:, which is focused on loving, serving those we love, and finding simplicity in relationships. Titled Simplified Hospitality, I definitely got the most out of the concept of serving your immediate family in ways they love. (I should point out, as I did on instagram this week, that Emily Ley makes it very clear the difference between “serving” and being “subservient,” thank you very much.)

It was a touching chapter for me, especially for the way she encourages readers to find ways to love your children how they specifically need to be loved. I’ve been working through some of this with Henry lately but couldn’t quite put it together just what that meant and this chapter said it all for me perfectly.


Henry is a home-body who loves one-on-one interaction and strives for praise whether it’s at home or school. He is sweet and sensitive and I’m learning to focus more on the simple ways we show love through action.

For us, this looks like cooking dinner together. That’s a hard one for me because I’m not a great cook and don’t really particularly love to cook. But Henry does. He loves to be in the kitchen and wants to help with every.little.detail. I would rather throw it all together while he’s watching tv, (or order take-out and watch tv with him for that matter) but I know at the end of the day he will remember us cooking together and the love he feels in the kitchen more than anything else. So one of my more recent goals has been to cook more together.

This also looks like showcasing and celebrating his artwork. Henry loves to draw more than he loves just about any other activity. But he particularly loves when you celebrate what he has done. That’s why one of my next tasks is to create a place to display his artwork in our new home. I’ve been searching Pinterest for ideas and trying to find the right space, and think I’ve nailed it down. I want to give his hard work the recognition it deserves and lately it’s slipped through the cracks.
Emily Ley talks in this chapter about learning your child’s “love language” just as you would your spouse or best friends. It’s a simple concept that is easy to overlook but one that is so important and meaningful right now. While I don’t know a ton about love languages I know this–one of his is definitely quality time together, which seems like an obvious but for me it’s now focused on defining what quality means most to him.